Si quieren que su ceremonia civil sea emotiva, especial y bonita, probablemente necesiten un oficiante de boda que les ayude a planearla y encontrar la forma de hacerla como soñaron. Pero antes, es importante que conozcan quiénes son y su labor.
One of the biggest decisions you’ll make while planning your wedding is choosing your officiant. It’s a big job, but somebody’s gotta do it. Your officiant is the person who will be doing that whole marrying thing — you know, asking people if they object and asking you if you actually want to say “I do — so it’s important that you not only LIKE the person, but that they are able to deliver the kind of ceremony you’re looking for.
Choosing an officiant is one of the most important steps in the wedding planning process, and if you’re affiliated with a religious organization, the decision is likely to be pretty straightforward. For couples who would prefer a non-denominational or civil ceremony, finding a wedding officiant can be tricky if you don’t know where to start. Whatever you decide, be sure to meet with your officiant at least once before the wedding day to make sure that they’re on the same page with you and your fiancé(e) when it comes to vows, readings, and the overall ceremony.
You may have lots of questions for your wedding officiant—but they’re also going to have questions for you! Make sure you’re well-prepared and have your answers ready!
1. When, Where, and Who?
“The purpose of ‘when’ is to determine if I’m available on the date and time of their wedding and to see how far in advance the wedding is. The purpose of ‘where’ is to get a general idea about the formality of the wedding, determine how much travel is involved for me to get to the venue, and to know if I’ve worked at that venue before. The answers help me decide if this is a wedding I want to, and am able, to pursue. And the ‘who’ question is because generally one member of the couple contacts me but doesn’t tell me who the other member is!”
2. What role do your families play in your lives?
“I try to get a sense of how connected the couple is to their families, or how estranged,” says Eisenberg. “It also gives me a sense of how many family members are involved in the ceremony. Sometimes the couple was introduced by family members, which is a fun story to share. And I always like to acknowledge the parents in the ceremony by name, so this helps me properly express the couples’ appreciation for them.”
3. Are there any traditions or rituals you’d like to include? Any you want to leave out?
Your ceremony should reflect you and your partner—so be prepared to answer these important wedding officiant questions as a couple. “I want to be able to incorporate the rituals or traditions each half of the couple wants into their ceremony,”